Isn't a wonderful thing to see your children making friends? I mean friends all of their own - not someone you've made them play with because they're you're friends with their mum.
Last year when my daughter was in pre-school she didn't really bond with any one child in particular, instead she had a large group of friends but nobody special. I remember asking back then if this was "normal" and many people told me that it was usual at that age (3-4) to not have a best friend. When she moved up to reception we were approached by the teacher to put forward names of her friends in order for them to group the classes (it's a big school). Sadly she didn't end up in a class with anybody she really thought of as one of her friends but it hasn't seemed to matter to her and she's made herself a whole new group of friends. She's just that kind of girl, a friend to everyone.
When my son started pre-school last September he played with a few different children but by October he had found his other half. He's got himself a best buddy and it's cute. They adore each other - they even tell each other they love each other - they are inseparable. There's an age gap of about 8 months between them, a little bit more noticeable I think at this age, certainly in terms of academic development and it's been brought up that their relationship may be detrimental to them in some way as they find it very hard to concentrate on anything else when they are together.
At the suggestion of their teacher, they've been split up in the classroom now and things are improving for them. We've also discussed next year and my head is saying that perhaps it's better for them to be split up - my heart is saying keep them together, starting school is hard enough and I truly think my boy will be upset come September if he finds out his not with his best pal. Either way they'll still see each other as I've become friends with the other boys mum now and I am thankful to my boy for that as it's opened up my social life!
What a trauma! I used to worry that my children wouldn't make friends at school and now I worry that the friendships they have made (at the age of 3) are going to be the ruin of them! I'd love to hear what your experiences are of your children and their friendships at this age and possibly what you would do in my shoes? Does your child have a best friend?
Mrs M x
love & kisses