Recently I had the pleasure of MY OWN MOTHER looking me up and down and uttering those immortal words "Are you pregnant again?".
To add insult to injury my husband found this hilarious and sat smirking to himself for the rest of the evening. How I didn't rabbit-punch him on the nose repeatedly until he passed out is testament to the strength of my willpower.
I don't think there is a bigger insult that can be levied at a woman. Just why do people feel compelled to make such statements? Especially in my case, when my mother knows fair well that I am not pregnant. (We'd just been out quaffing champagne...). It's just incredibly rude to ask someone and if I was pregnant? Then that's my own business and I'd tell people when I was good and ready.
It's not just the rudeness that gets me, it could have been a really sensitive subject. What if was trying for a baby and struggling? What if I'd just been through a traumatic and heart-breaking miscarriage? Fortunately neither of these apply to me but surely people should engage their brains before they speak when it comes to, what could quite possibly be a delicate topic for many people.
If you're not 100% sure if somebody is pregnant - it's simple. DON'T ASK.
It's not difficult. Just keep your thoughts to yourself. If someone IS pregnant, they'll tell you, if and when they want to.
Clearly, I am on a diet now but in the meantime I am considering buying this t-shirt.
Amen amen AMEN! It is SO rude to ask a woman if she is pregnant. Ditto: "So, you going to have a baby soon?" (a classic in Christian circles uttered to many a newlywed)
ReplyDelete4 months after I got married I got some kind of bug that made me look and feel very washed out and sicky. First thing that was said when I told people I hadn't been well - "Oooooh you're not pregnant are you?!?!?"
AAAAAAAAAAAARGH!!!!!!!!!
Sorry. It just winds me up so much. And you have hit the nail on the head there with people not knowing your personal situation. It's just not acceptable to say it ever. Ever ever ever.
An older woman once stood up for me on the bus. She didn't say anything but the glance a t my fat tummy and the little smile on her face said it all. The ensuing diet was one of my most successful.
ReplyDeleteOh dear.. I am sorry that your own Mother asked the question that no-one should ever asked. Reading this post made me look myself up & down in a mirror and I realise that I run the risk of being asked too - once the children are back at school on Monday, I will be planning some healthy eating & exercise... so thank you for that much needed kick up the backside!
ReplyDeleteThe irony of that Tshirt - that model isn't fat at all! I'm
ReplyDeletequite thin (sorry!) and people were speculating behind my back that I was pregnant 3rd time before I even knew I was myself!
Don't worry, I'm not actually that fat (well I don't think!). I am 9 stone, size 10-small 12!
DeleteThis post just made me laugh out loud. Brilliant. I agree, totally rude. I'd be mortified and horribly offended.
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